Sunday, March 28, 2010

Get the ugly out

Why do people feel they need to be rude to others to get their point across?  I like the saying "Don't judge a person til you walked a mile in their shoes."  Before you think about being mean to a person, think about what they might be going through. 
I heard a sermon once that stuck with me on this very topic.  A Pastor was at the grocery store and the checkout girl was foul.  He tried to stay patient, but eventually got mad and snapped back at her.   He went on with his day but couldn't help feeling guilty about his actions.  He regretted how he responded and went back and gave her a gift and apologized.  She cried and told him all the horrible things that were going on in her life and that day he came in some heavy stuff went down. 
I have been to restaurants on more than one occasion where people have purposely been rude to their waiters.  I believe it was their goal to get a free meal.  I remember one occasion where I watched an entire table leave zero tip.  If you don't like someone's service, don't be a hater.  In similarity, no boss would withhold a paycheck because someone had an off day. 
Can't we all just get along? 

Thursday, March 25, 2010

Insecurities

Get Fit

If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it. - Mary Engelbreit.

You don't have to be 500, 400, 300, 200, or even 100 pounds to feel bad about yourself.  I have met many people who range from all sizes who think they're "fat."  It would shock you. 

If I thought they would let me, I would put pictures of all my gorgeous friends and tell you their insecurities.  The most beautiful people have told me they don't like their ears, nose, cheeks, chin, butt, belly, arm fat, thighs, calves, and even toes. 

As for myself, I look in the mirror and see a belly.  Wii fit is a few pounds away from telling me I am overweight.  I am highly insecure and always have been.  I am 5'1" and Wii just told me I weigh 128.  This stinks especially since I just read a forum of girls that are the same height weighing as much as 40 lbs less.  I know it is shallow to talk about myself in comparison to so many other people, but I think it is good to hear that even a "little" person has issues with her self image. 

At church on Sunday, I listened to the Pastor speak on dangers of comparisons and realized girls do that a ton.  One time I had a girl friend tell me that even though I had a bigger butt, she had a smaller stomach.  I didn't like that comment one bit.   Why put me down?  Were you trying to make yourself feel better?  Did it work?

While on the subject of put downs, let me tell you a story of my life.  When I was in high school, I weighed 105.  I ran track, and was extremely fit.  Still I got made fun of for my "big" butt.  In fact, someone made up a song about it.  It went like this...Big Butt, Big Butt, BigButtBigButtBigButt, Big Butt, Big Butt, BIGBUTTBIGBUTTBIGBUTT. 


I don't like my belly so I am going to change it.   I post this not to get sympathy or encouragement, but to get accountability.  I asked Wii fit to give me six months and I will be at 22% body fat.  That means that by August I will have lost an average of  half a pound a week.  That is completely doable.  And now that I have posted this for all the world to see, I will have no choice but to finish what I've started. 


It is one thing to say this, but I need get specific.  How do I get there?  What specific attainable goals can I set to help me with this journey? 

1.  Watch what I eat (And avoid eating out)
2.  Watch what I drink
3.  Exercise three times a week (Sooo doable)

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

The Timeline of my New Home...

My love story: Starring my home

It all started April 2007. My journey of finding a perfect home was in process. We looked at many different homes ranging from the ghetto of the Ville to the slums of the millionaires. We finally found the perfect home.

It was the greatest starter home one mile from my husband’s job, a sparkling in ground pool, and brand new granite counters.

It was on the market for only three days when we saw it and immediately placed an offer.

It was 140000 and we bid 135,000 . Two people got into a bidding war and it sold for 150000. TEN THOUSAND MORE THAN WAS LISTED. We were heartbroken. We went into a deep depression for two years without going to another house again.

Fast forward and it is now January 2010. We are receiving notices from our realtor of homes in the zip code we like. We see three we are interested in visiting.






Monday, January 11, we visit the house in our dream neighborhood. It had 4 bedrooms, two bath, and a two story master closet. It was originally listed for 195,000 down to 183,900. It was a foreclosure on the market for 49 days, but we loved it.


Friday we visited two more in minutes. We knew we had found the home of our dreams so why look anywhere else.


Monday we placed a bid on our gorgeous dream home. We offered 175,000 and asked them to pay closing costs. We waited in agony for their response.

Friday, the bank counter-offered and told us they would pay for no repairs. It was an as-is situation. We countered their counter waited for them to decide what would happen next.

Monday we were good to go. We heard back from the back and although they wouldn’t pay our realtor his full commission fees, everything looked good and we proceeded with the process.

Monday, January 25, we got an inspector to look at foundation and the house, and they thought everything looked good. Yes, the master was missing carpet,

yes the master bath had a fist punched in the wall,

yes the bathtub had its panel hanging off,

but those were all cosmetic things and wouldn’t affect the sale. We did find out we had termites, but paid to fix that and it was no problem.
The mortgage company we were using was absolutely amazing. They got us a rate of 4.5% for 15 years. We weren’t worried about anything financial because our guy had everything under control.

Wednesday, February 3, we get our appraisal and it was for 20,000 more than we paid for it. We were super excited about that. Immediate equity. It was this day that our lender started requesting a ton of things to continue with the mortgage loan. We needed to give paystubs, w-2’s, proof of home insurance, and a letter stating why there was a discrepancy of addresses with Jason’s paystubs and w-2. There were silly things too, but we didn’t care. They were giving us a lot of money so we let it slide.

Tuesday, February 9, we had everything worked out and scheduled to meet the title company at 9:00AM on Friday morning. We thought it was all sailing from there. That’s what it seemed on the surface. My husband started to get a sick feeling that he needed to pray and so he prayed for the house and it would be a smooth process for closing and we would have no problems. He had no idea, nor I, that there were behind the scenes drama we had no idea about.

Friday, February 12, we get a call from our realtor telling us that everything wrong with the house has to be fixed by Tuesday, February 16. Jason and I panicked because 1. We were in San Antonio 2. We had no idea how to install carpet 3. We would be broke if we did all those things they asked. 4. They only gave us 5 days to complete it all. We tried to get the bank to give us an extension, but they would charge us over a hundred dollars a day if we did that. Thankfully our realtor was amazing and he lined up a handyman to fix everything for us.

Tuesday, February 16, We managed to get a thumbs up from the appraiser and we were headed toward closing Friday morning.

Wednesday, February 17, we were suppose to know the time and place of closing as well as the dollar amount we needed to have. For some reason we couldn’t get an answer from our mortgage broker.

Thursday, February 18, we were told we might not be able to close on time. They didn’t know when but there were complications that delayed us closing on time. Thursday night we were told we could close on time and all was well.

Friday, February 19, we arrived to our closing and our realtor and loan officer were there.












It was a happy reunion. After everyone left, my realtor told me that our mortgage guy busted his bum trying to get us to close on time. As soon as everything looked good, he quit working at the bank. He did the jobs of other people because they were slacking off and messing things up. Our realtor had to call the management and complain as well. We had no idea any of this was going on because our team was doing an amazing job keeping us out. They were successful because closing went without a hitch. Our realtor gave us a cruise for using his business.

And having a new handyman was the greatest thing ever. He installed new carpet, retextured our house, painted, and repaired our plumping. Oh and installed our appliances. Sears wanted to charge us hundreds to install each. We paid a hundred for all. And now we are living happily ever after.

Sunday, March 21, 2010

The first Blog

I saw Julie and Julia and it inspired me to start a blog. But on what?

Fashion?
I joined a forum for petite women that display their absolutely adorable fashion, but I am all about cheap so I think my Target tops and Payless flops might get shunned.

No, I'm a fashion don't. Ha ha! Especially since all my outfits include UGGS.



Gardening?
My yard currently has tons of weeds and looks atrocious. I could do a before and after. You could follow my journey to a beautiful home. Ha but that would mean I have to finish what I started. Hmmm. I'll think about it.


Cooking?
Well, I do like to cook. I could do a success of all my new adventures in cooking.
It has potential.



Marriage?
I'm sure my husband would frown on this. He isn't as open as me.





Travels?
I would love this one, but since I got a new house money restricts future endeavors.



Weight Loss?

It's obvious I need it.



Maybe a little bit of everything? What to do what to do. To be continued...